The New Year can mean a lot of different things to coparents. It’s a start to a whole new period of time to spend with your child and watch them grow. It’s a fresh beginning at trying all new approaches and habits along the way. For many coparents, it’s also the end of the holiday season, where you might have to see your ex more than usual. We know that can be difficult.
As coparents look forward to the New Year, it is important to focus on the positives and actionable change items. There is no use in worrying about what you have no control over. Instead, here are our 5 New Year’s Resolutions for coparents to focus on:
Focus On the Kids
Remember that your relationship with your coparent is now built on something that you both have in common! You both love your children unconditionally and want what is best for them. In times when you can’t agree on what that best option is, remember that they are coming from the same place you are. What happened between you two before is not essential to the task at hand, which is always just raising your children.
Work Towards Compromises
On hard-fought issues, find places where you are willing to compromise. Note compromises that your coparent sends your way when they make them. In general, being a little more flexible and going with the flow can set you up for coparenting success more than almost anything else.
Keep It Specific
There’s a saying about coparenting communication we believe: “Talk more clearly, not more often.” If communicating with your coparent isn’t something you love doing, make the job easier on yourself by being very clear and specific when you do talk. That helps eliminate unnecessary chatter, and ensures everyone is on the same page.
Take Care of Yourself
Coparenting is a two-person job, but the only one of those two people you’re directly responsible for is yourself. Remember to take care of yourself along the way, especially coming out of stressful events and seasons. Take some time for yourself and don’t feel bad about it! Enjoy your own company and do something that relaxes you. It will make a difference in your interactions with other people.
Get Help Along the Way
At KL Family Law, we believe in helping families move forward with compassion and integrity. For most coparents, that means focusing on the children and finding compromises where you can – but we know it can be tough. For help with any family legal needs, contact KL Family Law today! We are here to help you!
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